Chapter 2: Family life half the time?
While having my step-son around was still new to me, not having him around on the off-weeks was somewhat new as well. Here we were, a fairly new couple learning how to live a "family" life, being left alone every other week. As a new couple, I personally thought this was the best case scenario: We are able to "parent", yet are able to have time just both of us every other week. In my mind, this made us grow much quicker as a couple, as a team.
Not only did we get to enjoy the movie nights watching the minions, family activities, and the typical family life, but we also had alone time learning about each other, seeing friends, and going for diners [not that we actually got out much]. I began picking up my step-son at school by myself. A big milestone. Better yet, he would run into my arms and chit-chat with me on the way out. My boyfriend even left for work one morning and I got to spend my first breakfast alone with him. These seem like such normal things as a parent, and you will never experience these unless you are a step parent. See these priceless moments don't happen to traditional parents. You have your child, bring him or her home from the hospital, and you begin living right there, you wake up beside them. As a step-parent, you have these "firsts" that will remain engraved in your memory forever; your first breakfast, first full day alone, first time driving them somewhere, first PED day with them, first time shopping, first time buying them a present, first time cooking for them, first time seeing them cry, and the list goes on.
I will keep this second blog short, but I guess what I'm trying to say is we made the best of this adaptation time truly exploring both sides of our relationship as parents, and lovers. Maybe some women can be thrown off by the idea of dating a man with a child, and trust me I'm certainly not saying it doesn't come with its challenges, but it is definitely a make it or break it situation in terms of "if" you and this person will work out long-term. You basically get to test out your new man as a parent without having the full "shabam".
We definitely made the best of it, it made us grow as individuals, as a couple, and as parents.
Little Mum Book xox